As empaths and sensitives, many of you naturally have profound compassion for others, including those who have hurt you. This is a wonderful trait, but your compassion for those who have hurt you should not exceed your compassion for yourself.
You can understand that a person hurt you due to unhealed aspects they may have. This is wise, because it allows you to forgive, but you must also know that until they prioritize healing, they are likely to do it again.
This is not to say that you can’t have love and compassion for them. Far from it! It simply means you may wish to rethink giving them VIP access until they are able to treat you with the love and respect you deserve.
Cause and effect is not punishment; it is a natural outcome. It fosters accountability, and ultimately facilitates change and evolution. Allowing someone to continue to show up as such a lesser version of themselves perpetuates painful cycles, and doesn’t support the growth and expansion of anyone involved.
Healthy boundaries, when created from a wise and conscious space, will always find a connection point that supports the respect, safety, and empowerment of all, and that is very much in line with what your empathic heart truly desires